Faith,Trust,Hope,Love

OneRepublic - All The Right Moves

2010-02-28T01:43:00.001+08:00

'Wait and See' from Brandon Heath

2010-02-13T16:06:00.001+08:00

Coldplay - Fix You

2009-12-15T00:21:00.001+08:00

You were there...

2009-12-08T20:04:00.001+08:00

Woke up this morning,
Hesitant to open my eyes,
Dreading to face the new day,
You were there...

Showered,
Got dressed,
Rushed out without breakfast,
You were there...

Rushing for datelines,
Picking up unfriendly calls,
Being ignored,
You were there...

Having mindless chats,
Wishing he would react,
Getting another tight slap,
You were there...

Forcing a smile,
In denial,
Trying to get through this trial,
You were there...

Getting home,
worn, torn, weary,
Hoping that someone could hold me,
You were there...

In every situation,
In every second,
Though I wasn't aware,
You are always there...

Now with every ounce of breathe,
Every tear that trickles down,
Every piece from a broken heart,
Please promise me You'd be there...

Please promise me this,
Please promise me this,
Please promise me this as I go through each day,
You would be there...

I will be there...

Sharon Lim
Tears of Pearls

Sidewalk Prophets "The Words I Would Say" w/ LYRICS

2009-10-04T23:22:00.001+08:00

"While I'm Waiting" Music Video- from the movie FIREPROOF

2009-09-24T22:08:00.001+08:00

tell him... celine dion / barbra streisand

2009-08-11T15:36:00.001+08:00

PJ CG

2009-07-03T15:46:00.001+08:00

Western Spaghetti by PES

2009-05-18T13:03:00.001+08:00

Her Morning Elegance / Oren Lavie

2009-05-18T12:09:00.001+08:00

Pachelbel's Canon in D w/ hip hop

2009-05-13T21:47:00.001+08:00

pepsi truck

2009-05-13T21:13:00.001+08:00

korean beer commercial

2009-05-13T21:00:00.001+08:00

korean ad taken in Malaysia

Dare To Move Camp teaser

2009-05-10T00:44:00.001+08:00

Switchfoot - Twenty-Four (Only Song)

2009-05-03T14:18:00.001+08:00

IF I WERE BOSS （ WITH LYRICS ）

2009-04-23T23:59:00.001+08:00

Paroimia: The Tale Of Colours (Trailer 2)

2009-04-13T22:39:00.001+08:00

Paroimia: The Tale Of Colours (Trailer)

2009-03-25T20:03:00.001+08:00

COME COME COME!!!

JabbaWockeez on America's Best Dance Crew

2009-03-15T14:27:00.001+08:00

White Horse aby Taylor Swift with Lyrics

2009-03-14T23:46:00.001+08:00

Leona Lewis - Better In Time (Official Music Video With Lyrics)

2009-03-07T23:38:00.001+08:00

Find Your Wings - Mark Harris

2009-02-17T20:58:00.001+08:00

It's only for a moment you are mine to hold
The plans that heaven has for you
Will all too soon unfold
So many different prayers I'll pray
For all that you might do
But most of all I'll want to know
You're walking in the truth
And If I never told you
I want you to know
As I watch you grow

Chorus:
I pray that God would fill your heart with dreams
And that faith gives you the courage
To dare to do great things
I'm here for you whatever this life brings
So let my love give you roots
And help you find your wings

May passion be the wind
That leads you through your days
And may conviction keep you strong
Guide you on your way
May there be many moments
That make your life so sweet
Oh, but more than memories

Chorus:

It's not living if you don't reach for the sky
I'll have tears as you take off
But I'll cheer as you fly

good affternoon teajer

2009-02-16T15:47:00.002+08:00

yes, i started my practical. but only officially starting to teach tmr....either form 1/2. life is gonna b BZ for the next 3 months. walked around the school today and goodness....feels kinda odd and funny to have students coming up to me and say "gud aftrnoon teajer." and i have to reply "good afternoon" till my mouth tired of replying....hahaha...feel like just making a card with the word "good aftrnoon" on it and lift it up evrytime students great me LOL. again, it's weird too coz i've been a student all my life...literally...and now in reverse i'm the teacher. freakily exciting!!

teachers who taught me before were super surprised to meet me, while just a few kinda ignored me. below is a little scene which took place between me and one cute teacher:

teacher1: hey sharon!!
sharon: hey!
teacher1: wat u doing here?
sharon: practical for 3 months.
teacher1: ooo wow, u've grown up!! goodness!!
sharon: er...it's just 4 years ago...**nervous laughter**
teacher1: wah so big dy. **turns and talk to teacher2**
teacher2: **speaking to teacher1** eh, cikgu baru ke? bully je la...haha
teacher1: cannot, i know her, taught her before.
sharon: -.-''''

then again, i really cudn't sleep last night thinking of how to handle the class....and yea...ended up didn't go into any classes today. but i'll b taking classes from tmr onwards. Pn Julie, the aftrnoon session head, told me to not be too nice to them on da 1st day of class...coz they'd climb over my head.....girls...HOW TO NOT BE NICE???? dilemma..... plz plz plz plz pray for me!!! i need all the prayer i can get....

oh ya, orientation for ex-form 5 was good. got to know all the girls. guys.....well okok la...i got to know randy, chee liang, sek teng and ps jeremy better then the members lol...so not too bad. rebecca made ALL OF THE GIRLS ride the "flying coaster" in genting....which is slightly different then the normal roller coaster which u sit down when u r on it...this...u hv to lie down on ur tummy and fly like superman. i tell u....prisc, myself and stacey froze and wanted to run away aftr taking one look at the thing. super freaky....sommore we were talking about how ppl die and all from sitting the "solero shots". wonderful rite? so, rebecca bought the tickets and forced all of us on....so, with cold hands and funny stomuch....prisc, stacey and i went on the same ride with nervous laughter. up and up and up we went, giving each other pep talk on the way....then when we hit the pit of the top...we froze and our minds thought the same thing..."this is it.." and the next thing u hear is stacey's "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH". prisc was silent. as for me...i laughed all the way -.-'' plz i duno y too...so....dun ask....i tried to scream too...really wan....but i ended up laughing again. but ya it was fun!!! i had a great weekend :) the ride looks like below:

FUTBOL A LA MATRIX

2009-02-08T13:19:00.001+08:00

Matrix Karate

2009-02-08T13:02:00.001+08:00

crazy 3D japanese game show

2009-02-08T12:55:00.001+08:00

Japanese Game Show - Olympics

2009-02-08T12:47:00.001+08:00

Japanese Face Show

2009-02-08T12:18:00.001+08:00

Japanese Game Show

2009-02-08T01:36:00.001+08:00

this is so cool!!!

The End.

2009-01-18T22:48:00.000+08:00

Never in a million years I would expect this to come....but eventhough I did.....I never expect it to come so soon. Still probly and i guess it's all for the best? I'm still trying to come to terms with this....so....bear with me? lol. I duno how to put this so I wudn't sound so pathetic....which I think I am already in many ways, as I was quite the content with this week...

2009 didn't start with all smiles....and it's still january....urgh God sustain me!!!!

Casting Crowns Praise You In The Storm

2009-01-16T14:39:00.001+08:00

I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.

Chorus:
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away

Chorus

I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth

Mountain of God (by Third Day)

2009-01-16T14:25:00.001+08:00

Thought that I was all alone
Broken and afraid
But You were there with me
Yes, You were there with me

And I didn't even know
That I had lost my way
But You were there with me
Yes, You were there with me

'Til You opened up my eyes
I never knew
That I couldn't ever make it
Without You

Even though the journey's long
And I know the road is hard
Well, the One who's gone before me
He will help me carry on
After all that I've been through
Now I realize the truth
That I must go through the valley
To stand upon the mountain of God

As I travel on the road
That You have lead me down
You are here with me
Yes, You are here with me
I have need for nothing more
Oh, now that I have found
That You are here with me
Yes, You are here with me

I confess from time to time
I lose my way
But You are always there
To bring me back again

Sometimes I think of where it is I've come from
And the things I've left behind
But of all I've had, what I possessed
Nothing can quite compare
With what's in front of me
With what's in front of me

stop to really grow....

2009-01-15T22:35:00.000+08:00

i really gotta pin this down in my heart that watever it maybe, i know that God cant just keep pouring water or just keep showering me with sunlight coz i'd drown with too much water and dry up with too much sunlight.....so yes, it's time to stop and allow me to grow, soak in all that He needs to teach me and grow :) i feel better now....lol.

Lifehouse - Storm (Acoustic)

2009-01-08T22:58:00.001+08:00

how long have I
been in this storm
so overwhelmed by the ocean's shapeless form
water's getting harder to tread
with these waves crashing over my head

if I could just see you
everything will be alright
if I'd see you
the storminess will turn to light

and I will walk on water
and you will catch me if I fall
and I will get lost into your eyes
and everything will be alright
and everything will be alright

I know you didn't
bring me out here to drown
so why am I 10 feet under and upside down
barely surviving has become my purpose
cause I'm so used to living underneath the surface

if I could just see you
everything will be alright
if I see you
the storminess will turn to light

and I will walk on water
and you will catch me if I fall
and I will get lost into your eyes
and everything will be alright

and I will walk on water
you will catch me if I fall
and I will get lost into your eyes
and everything will be alright
I know everything is alright
everything's alright

Blind - Life House

2009-01-07T22:25:00.001+08:00

I was young but I wasn't naive
I watched helpless as he turned around to leave
and still I have the pain I have to carry
a past so deep that even you could not bury if you tried

after all this time
I never thought we'd be here
never thought we'd be here
when my love for you was blind
but I couldn't make you see it
couldn't make you see it
that I loved you more than you'll ever know
a part of me died when I let you go

I would fall asleep
only in hopes of dreaming
that everything would be like is was before
but nights like this it seems are slowly fleeting
they disappear as reality is crashing to the floor

after all this time
I never thought we'd be here
never thought we'd be here
when my love for you was blind
but I couldn't make you see it
couldn't make you see it
that I loved you more than you'll ever know
a part of me died when I let you go

after all this time
would you ever wanna leave it
maybe you could not believe it
that my love for you was blind
but I couldn't make you see it
couldn't make you see it
that I loved you more than you will ever know
a part of me died when I let you go
and I loved you more than you'll ever know
a part of me dies when I let you go

Yiruma - River Flows in You

2009-01-07T13:42:00.001+08:00

i'm playing the piano again after a long while :)

James 1

2009-01-06T00:45:00.001+08:00

2 Dear brothers and sisters,^[a] when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

5 If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. 6 But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. 7 Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.

9 Believers who are^[b] poor have something to boast about, for God has honored them. 10 And those who are rich should boast that God has humbled them. They will fade away like a little flower in the field. 11 The hot sun rises and the grass withers; the little flower droops and falls, and its beauty fades away. In the same way, the rich will fade away with all of their achievements.

12 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. 13 And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong,^[c] and he never tempts anyone else. 14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.

16 So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.^[d] He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.^[e] 18 He chose to give birth to us by giving us his true word. And we, out of all creation, became his prized possession.^[f]

Listening and Doing

19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human anger^[g] does not produce the righteousness^[h] God desires. 21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

22 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. 23 For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. 24 You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. 25 But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.

26 If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. 27 Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

Your will be done in my life...

Bring it on!!!

2009-01-01T16:55:00.002+08:00

woo hoo~~ 2009!! *stare into space dreamily*

hahaha....well....one way to start the new year is to get sick.... -.-'' awesome right? yes...i'm sneezing my head off and well ya....drinking lots of fluid to keep myself intact. haha...well...tat makes it something to remember lol.

anyhow, as i sat through watchnight in church yesterday and as the three tenors sang on stage, i cud'nt help but start looking back at each and every event which i had gone through till the very last day of 2008. being an emo, compationate person, who wud cry at a stranger's funeral, cry for a happy ending, sad ending, cry for other's problem and etc... yes....u get the gist of it la. yea....i started reflecting on all the things which i've done and said throughout the year, bad and good. but true....i no matter what nothing beats the attitude of being thankful, though nothing seems to be going your way and though you may be sitting at a pit being a twit.

as i sat there thinking and thanking, i realize that being thankful is so much more satisfying then complaining and being depressed. it just edifies the soul in many ways unexplainable. hahaha....i'm even thankful for being thankful LOL. how cute :P still, being thankful also shows and brings us to a greater realization of how much He has done for us and is still doing for us, and that whatever short-comings we are facing now are nothing more then just a light breeze of wind that will settle anytime soon.

so many things will happen this year, i can see some of it; yet, the mysteries of how these events will turn out and how i'd face and deal with it, is very much an adventure to be unfold together with Him. it's gonna be great :)

so, bring it on ^^

chasing rainbows

2008-12-26T17:28:00.002+08:00

2008 is bout to end soon. 2009 in 5 days time. have i accomplished anything this year? did i chased rainbows? proudly i can say i did fall some and conquered some, and i don't regret any bit of it. still come to think of it, 2008 did pass by real quick, filled with precious memories and lessons.

starting out the year with the challenge of being a leader does not seem much now as i've come to terms with it;
organizing a trip to penang taught me more about organizing and planning and working together and made me learn more to be patient and to continue smiling though it's all tough;
going to singapore with rose, sexy, isaac and lee ching to FGA singapore was a real eye opener, i made some treasured friends and learned how to be sociable;
raub missions trip with a whole bunch of new faces was great, plus the fact of a literally environment friendly environment taught me a great deal to appreciate what we have back home and to work together as a team;
prisc leaving off to UK for 3 months plus really forced me up the plate as a leader and i do thank her for that;
starting my major subjects has never been more then a joy for me, i've gained a new bunch of friends of different races though i had countless problems for the pass 2 years;
P.O.D. camp was a blast as i've made new friends and learnt quite a fair bit from the workshops;
doing the CG notes was also joy as i've learnt a great deal more then normal lessons though it was quite a rush which made the experience a mix of emotions;
sending amanda off wasn't as emo as i expected as tat girl didn't set the emo mood for us to dwell in it, but i miss you a whole deal dear.....;
chubes and serena's engagement was quite sudden and something to look forward to next year;
christmas this year wasn't much of a blast, but still enjoy seeing so many familier faces and receiving so many presents.
the chasing of rainbows would be in the area of relationship. it's so pretty, so colourful, so myterious, but yet, i duno where it comes from and where it ends. in this, so far, patience is what i've learnt and still in the process of mastering it and to trust God in it. i wana do this right in everyway.

overall, this year i learnt a great deal much more then 2007 and most of all i made a great deal more of friends ^^ i'm so happy and i feel thankfull despite the many few scrapes and bruises.

i duno what 2009 will hold for me, i duno whether i'd get attached by then though i pray tat i will LOL. i just pray that God will teach me more and i'd learn with a teachable spirit, i pray that i'd learn to b more independent, pray that 2009 wud b a fruitful year and most of all i pray that God be with all of us as we take on another year filled with adventures and growth.

i pray we wun chase rainbows, but chase the One who made it.

Pains of Waiting

2008-12-07T22:04:00.001+08:00

Story so alike mine, story so similar.
Really makes me wonder, makes me ponder.

Will my happy ending be the same?
Or maybe just the other?
Do You write the same story twice?
Or put a twist to the other?

I so want it the same.
It feels so much comforting and better.
But, Your plans, somehow I know, goes for the latter.

Contemplating, wondering....
Dang! This is so confusing!!
I want to be patient, I really do.
But, just having this feelings just would'nt do.

Daddy, take it, stop it!
Do whatever it takes.
Stop it from going all over my head.

No matter what the storyline will be,
No matter how long I may endure.
One thing is for sure,You are all I'm living for.

The pains of growing is all I need to bear.
But the fruits of it deems it fair.
Carry me through this if You may?
My own feet may not take me there.

An offering for You, my life will it be.
Any ending, any style, to Your decree.
Grant me Your will and so let it be.

random thoughts

2008-12-07T00:31:00.002+08:00

just being obedient to God is so much better then just having it my way, as in the long run it pays. it may be really tough and may even get impatient...but looking beyond the worries towards You, i know it's all gonna be worth it. As for now, waiting in obedience seems much more worth it. In everything, may Your will be done, no matter how hard it may be, may it be as You wish, but, dun forget to carry me through it. Yes, it's gonna be worth it :)

lameness from CG 3#

2008-11-24T11:48:00.002+08:00

3 koalas (from jian shen)

3 koalas bears sitting on a tree.....one jumped off, why?
coz he wana commit suicide.

then da second one jumped off, why?
coz he hv peer pressure.

then da 3rd one decides to jump off too, why?
coz he thinks it's a game.

then suddenly, da tree uproots itself and fell down, why?
coz it thinks it's a koala.

-.-'''

paus (from david)

char siu pau and man tau went for a movie. char siu pau cried like crazy, yet man tau just sat there and watch. why?
coz man tau no feeling.

then, char siu pau and dau sa pau went for a movie. char siu pau cried and dau sa pau laughed. why?
coz different feelings.

then, char siu pau and dai pau went to da movies. char siu pau cried as usual and dai pau laughed and cried at da same time. why?
coz mixed feelings.

finally, char siu pau, dau sa pau, man tau and dai pau went to da movies again. but this time, char siu pau didn't cry, whereas the rest did as they had done before. so, why doesn't char siu pau cry this time?
coz he watch da movie too many times dy.

-.-'''''''''''''''''''''''''

Aladin's mother (from winson)

well, we all know Aladin and tat his father is called the "king of thieves", but then we never heard of his mother before. so, let's say Aladin's mother did show up, what would her name be?
Alamak.

goosness......see what wonderful members i hv wahhhhhh...... -.-''

holiday!!

2008-11-17T12:19:00.001+08:00

i can already taste it!!! aftr 3 days continuously of hardcore paper aftr papers.....i hv one last one to go on wednesday before i'm off for a 2 month break!!! woohoo!!! man...gotta start planning wat to do.... :D :D so happy!!! can try to cure my panda eyes while i'm at it....

guarding your heart....from what?

2008-11-12T11:56:00.004+08:00

it's been like forever since we've been hearing this phrase "girl, u should guard your heart.".....well...for at least some of us, we have already mastered this skill of guarding our hearts....now tat we've reached the age of opening it....it's tough....for most of us, it's due to the fear of getting hurt...hope that the article below would do some help.... :)

Guarding Your Heart … From What?
by Lindy Keffer

Some of us become so intent on "guarding our hearts," that we may be missing out on some things that God has to teach us. Lindy discusses the idea that protecting ourselves from possible hurt may not be the best way to go about our relationships.

What was God Thinking?
Apparently, God didn't read Finding the Love of Your Life1 before commanding His prophet Hosea to marry Gomer the adulteress. If He had, He would have known that a propensity for prostitution is not something a man of God should look for in a wife.

Is it just me, or does anyone else's sense of moral outrage flare up over Hosea's story? I mean, come on. This doesn't sound like Passion and Purity.2 Not much I Kissed Dating Goodbye3 going on here. Not only did Hosea fail to guard his heart, he ran headlong into a relationship full of pain. And he did it at God's command.

When I first heard Hosea's story, I had a difficult time swallowing it for a couple of reasons. Obviously, it's heart-breaking to watch the prophet give himself to a woman who repeatedly betrays him in the beds of other men. But as hard as that is to stomach, it turns out to be a beautiful metaphor for God's insatiable love for His unfaithful people. The bigger wrestling match in my mind was over what this story has to say about human love. Sure, I know that the book of Hosea isn't intended as a marriage manual. But I also know that God never commands His servants to do something that falls outside His plan, and that includes His plan for marriage.

So how do we reconcile the fact that, while God's command to Hosea can't possibly go against His design for marriage, it sure seems to fly in the face of the advice given in Christian relationship books?

I Don't Hate I Kissed Dating Goodbye
First, let me say that I wholeheartedly agree with Christian authors who counsel believers to stay pure, honor marriage and make wise decisions in choosing a spouse. Likewise, I detest the worldly idea that we should use one another to gratify our own lustful desires without a thought of lifelong commitment (or even a second date). For the most part, I think Christian relationship books were written to encourage us to live toward and within marriage in a way that honors God's design for it.

But, I also think that Christian culture has turned relationships into a formula — do it this way and you will arrive at the altar with the ideal spouse and without emotional scars. We talk about "guarding our hearts" and avoiding "emotional prostitution." We set conservative physical boundaries — sometimes deciding to go no further than hand-holding and hugging before marriage. But do these things really get at the point of Christian courtship? I say no, and here's why…

On Guard
When we talk about guarding our hearts, we usually mean being super careful about how much personal stuff we disclose to someone in whom we're romantically interested. We think of it as a way to save our emotional intimacy for our future spouses. There's only one problem with this idea. It's not actually biblical. The phrase "guard your heart" comes from Proverbs 4:23. Read in context, it's clearly talking about guarding our hearts against sin, not people.4

As usual, the Bible calls us to a standard higher than the ones we construct for ourselves. Guarding our hearts against sin includes much of the wisdom that's already built into the Christian dating culture: It causes us to choose our company carefully, steer clear of physical activity that arouses our sexual passions, and factor the lifelong nature of the marriage commitment into our interaction with potential spouses. It also asks us to dig deeper — to go beyond the neat boundaries outlined in books and lectures and wrestle with God regarding our own sin.

So, rather than deciding that purity means not kissing before engagement, we have to ask, "When is physical affection selfish rather than self-giving?" or "At what point am I giving in to temptation and violating my own conscience?" And we must be willing to forsake anything that doesn't measure up to these standards, even if, at times, it's something as seemingly innocent as hugging.5

For those of us who once felt safe and justified living within the Christian dating box, the demands of righteousness can come as a shock. Suddenly, it's not about checking all the boxes on the list, but about being intimately attuned to the Holy Spirit, even as we are growing closer to another person. Sometimes we are surprised at the unexpected places where sin lurks in our hearts. And that's not the only tough thing we encounter when we stop guarding ourselves against people and start guarding against sin.

Take a Risk, Take a Chance, Make a Change
As hard as it is to fully expose my heart to God, I find one thing more difficult: exposing my heart to other humans. That's probably because I have known God for as long as I can remember and have found Him completely trustworthy. Humans — not so much. I think this is the hardest part about dating and marriage. In order to get to the point of making a lifelong commitment to love someone, we must open ourselves up to (at least one) sinful person who will hurt us. Somehow, I think we've taken the Christian relationship books to mean that if we follow all the steps, we can avoid the hurt, but it just isn't so.

I don't number myself among those who believe that God takes a risk in loving us. But because we lack His sovereignty and omniscience, I think we necessarily take risks when we imitate His sacrificial love. Or, as C.S. Lewis puts it in The Four Loves, "There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken ... The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell."6

Conventional church wisdom sometimes tells us otherwise: Do not invest yourself too deeply in anyone until you know that person is "The One." I know, I know. To anyone who hasn't dated within Christian culture, it sounds absurd, but many Christian singles have bought this line. They're the ones who say, "I only want to date the person I marry." They live in fear of accidentally giving an irretrievable piece of their heart away to someone they might not wed.
Certainly, marriage is undermined when we have given our hearts and bodies away haphazardly to those we didn't end up marrying. But at the other end of the spectrum, the desire to "save everything for my future spouse" can translate into practical paralysis — we are simply unable to move forward in a relationship where the end is not known.

Who's Guarding Your Heart?
The problem with this approach is that it demands that God give us a guarantee of "happily ever after" before we ever become vulnerable with someone we care about. But because marriage is always between two sinful people, it will always be a leap of faith. And for two God-followers considering the possibility of marriage, there will often be fears, misgivings and hurts as we grasp what it means to be an imperfect person who deeply loves an imperfect person. And this, I think, is the core of the heart-guarding issue. We may say we're guarding our hearts to honor God, but if we're really honest, we're trying to keep ourselves from getting hurt.

Instead, we ought to see dating and courtship as a time of trusting uncertainty. We find someone who could potentially be a godly spouse. Sparks fly — hopefully for both people — and somehow or another (depending on which books we've read), we become intentional about getting to know each other.

If we guard our hearts against sin, we save ourselves loads of pain and regret should the relationship end. But at some point, the road to marriage requires making ourselves vulnerable to someone we have not yet committed to marry. That's a scary thing, but at that point we have a choice — guard our own hearts, and, in our self-protection, lose our ability to really love. Or, let God guard our hearts, trusting that even if we are abandoned by humans, He will hide us under His wings and make us whole again.

Pain is Productive
The Christian dating culture seems to rebel against the idea that God might lead us down the relationship road far enough to get hurt, but not so far as marriage. We will go to great lengths to avoid this excruciating state of limbo. But what if this pain is fully within God's plan for us?

It's like the blind man in John 9. He didn't suffer because he sinned. He suffered so that Jesus would have an opportunity to glorify the Father through his healing. So, if you wind up investing in a relationship that doesn't lead to marriage, don't see it as a moral failure (unless you have actually failed morally). Don't see it as the thwarting of God's plan for your life. It could be that God is refining you with His fire, painfully burning away your impurities — bringing healing to you and glory to Himself as He does so.

I'm sure Hosea wondered many times why God would ask him to go through the pain he suffered in his marriage. But he honored the marriage covenant, made himself open to his wife and trusted God with his heart. Because of his obedience, we have some of the Bible's most tender words from Christ, the bridegroom, to us, His bride:

I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness ... (Hosea 2:19-20, NIV).

What better safety could our hearts find?

http://www.trueu.org/dorms/womenshall/A000000435.cfm

bitter party

2008-11-10T13:16:00.002+08:00

my bro and i came out with this while makaning at a corner at a niece's party.....long story.....wana know ask me personally...but ya...i still find this amusing....

S: hey john, u know what's the in thing now?
J: what?
S: being a couple.
J: oh... *grin*
S: ya, and if u wan accessories, get kids. *grin*

sorry allow me to b bitter for now.... :))

Muttons To Midnight(98.7FM) Funny songs

2008-11-05T13:05:00.001+08:00

goodness....

lameness from CG 2#

2008-11-04T12:24:00.000+08:00

who are mormons?

well...ppl who don't mourn, coz "mo" mourn ma!!

-.-''''''

Jordan Pruitt - When She Loved Me - Disney Mania 5

2008-10-29T13:32:00.001+08:00

Once Upon A Dream - Emily Osment (FULL MUSIC VIDEO)

2008-10-29T13:26:00.001+08:00

15. When You Wish Upon a Star-DisneyMania 3

2008-10-29T13:22:00.001+08:00

So This is Love - James Ingram

2008-10-29T12:45:00.001+08:00

Cheetah Girls - I Won't Say I'm In Love

2008-10-29T00:16:00.001+08:00

love this~~

Disney Channel Stars - A Dream Is a Wish Your Heart Makes

2008-10-28T16:11:00.001+08:00

Kiss The Girl

2008-10-28T15:51:00.001+08:00

i like this version....:D

lameness from CG 1#

2008-10-26T12:41:00.001+08:00

what is an atheist?

well, an atheist is a person who is born in the 80's......

-.-''''''

NOT YOUR BUDDY!

2008-10-21T23:51:00.002+08:00

this is super true tat i just hadda post the whole article....

http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001845.cfm
Not Your Buddy
by Suzanne Hadley

The other day I was having lunch with a friend and she began to pour out an all-too-familiar story. The guy she'd been hanging out with four nights a week, the one who'd made her a jazz mix CD and asked her to be his date to his office Christmas party, the one who'd gone to late-night movies with her and made her pasta — that guy — had crushed her hopes (again) with a single, nonchalant statement: "I don't see myself in a relationship anytime soon."

I tried to reassure my friend that the guy probably thought she was beautiful and fabulous and smart but had just made a choice to be single for now.

"But we have such a great connection," she moaned. "We're such good friends!"

I felt anger well up. This was not the first time I'd heard this story. I could count nearly half a dozen friends who found themselves in this same frustrating situation. After investing months in late night talks, meals together and flirty e-mails, each woman faced the sad reality that the guy actually wasn't planning to upgrade their friendship to, well, marriage.

It's Not Our Fault!

I decided to discuss this trend with a few of my guy friends. I specifically targeted Brad, whose boyish good looks and abundance of charm had lured in more than one hopeful woman and gained him a reputation as a heartbreaker.

"Do you think it's wrong for a guy to initiate one-on-one time with a woman when he has no intentions with her?" I asked.

My friend paused, savoring the question. "I think," he said, "if a woman wants something to be there, she's going to see something there."

His buddies smirked knowingly.

"But don't you think seeking her out and spending time with her encourages it?" I prodded.

"She's the one who's choosing to view that as special treatment," he said, shrugging his shoulders. "It's her interpretation."

"Can you tell when a girl's interested in you?"

"Usually."

"Then why would you lead her on like that?"

"She's free to say no anytime. Until then, I'll assume she's OK with it."

By "OK," I guessed he meant the girl could handle it emotionally.

His buddies slapped him on the back.

"That's right," one of them piped up. "Women are always going to read into something. If you catered to it, you'd have to give up female friends completely."

Mutually Exclusive

The most helpful book I never read was a little relationship book called He's Just Not That Into You. The title alone provided the answer to a decade's old inner struggle I've had. You know, the one that causes a single female to hope a relationship will develop out of a friendship despite a complete absence of evidence of the fact.

In her book Relationships, former college professor Dr. Pamela Reeve discusses three levels of friendships: acquaintances, companions and intimate friends. Dr. Reeve observes that men and women cannot sustain an intimate friendship without one or the other harboring romantic expectations. She recommends that men and women avoid being intimate friends outside of courtship and marriage.

Companions, she says, generally spend less than two hours together a week. When a man indicates he would like to see the woman more than that, but claims they are "just friends," he sends a mixed message.

Dr. Reeve writes: "One party can selfishly enjoy all the benefits of a relationship, the warmth and relief from loneliness, the satisfaction of the attention that feeds the ego — all without the accompanying commitment. One party luxuriates, while the other party feels cheated and is left with deep unsatisfied longings."

I've recently observed several non-dating relationships that seem to fall into the "intimate friends" category. In every case, it is the woman who is paying the price emotionally. Why? When a guy starts investing his heart, he can do something about it by making a move. And if the girl rejects him, the friendship ends or changes significantly. A woman, however, can hang on in this kind of relationship indefinitely, hoping the guy will eventually share her feelings. She makes herself available to him as a "friend," all the while hoping the friendship will blossom into something more.

Unfortunately, even if the guy senses the woman's interest, like my friend Brad, he has not made a direct offer to her and therefore feels no obligation to clear up the matter. Maybe we could chalk that up to communication differences between men and women: a man may be oblivious to unspoken signs that he has been placed in the "future husband" category. What he may be viewing as an innocent dinner, she sees as an indication that the friendship is developing into more. But men should assume that if a woman is spending a lot of time with him, she is interested and she is investing her emotions. (I suspect men realize this more often than they'll admit, but hold onto these ego-boosting relationships anyway.)

Women, on the other hand, need to assume less. A woman should not assume that a guy friend she's spending time with is: a) just too shy to make a move; b) thinking she's the woman of his dreams but the timing isn't right; c) in denial of God's will that they be together.

We get it. A woman loves to read into a guy's every action. That's her relational crime. But the guy does her a disservice by allowing her to be his "buddy girl" — a female friend who provides the relational benefits without the commitment.

In his article Physical Intimacy and the Single Man, Matt Schmucker points out that men defraud their sisters when they indulge in this type of relationship. "Simply put," he writes, "a man defrauds a woman when, by his words or actions, he promises the benefits of marriage to a woman he either has no intention of marrying or if he does, has no way of finally knowing that he will."

Single men and women are failing each other. Uncommitted intimate friendships may satiate immediate needs, but they lead to frustration and heartache. Not to mention, for singles ready for marriage, these "friendships" waste time and energy.

Stepping Back

Men and women who find themselves in a dead-end friendship, should take responsibility. A woman is responsible to be wise with her heart. Solomon said, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Prov. 4:23). If a woman feels her heart longing for a man who's not pursuing her, indulging those feelings is unwise.

Song of Songs puts it this way, "Do not awaken love before it so desires." As a generation of women drunk on chick flicks, we want romance to happen so badly we allow ourselves to fantasize about relationships that have no founding.

About a year ago, my sister, a college junior, was receiving regular phone calls from Nick, a guy friend who had transferred to another school. During their conversations he would shower her with compliments, ask her what she was looking for in a guy and talk about taking her out to dinner at a fancy restaurant when he visited. At the same time, he congratulated her for being the only girl he could really talk to who wouldn't "get the wrong idea."

Despite her desire to be that exception, Sarah found herself increasingly confused by Nick's attention. She realized she was beginning to entertain romantic thoughts. After seeking counsel, Sarah decided she needed to cut back on her interactions with Nick to protect her heart.

During their next phone conversation, she explained how she felt. Nick admitted he wasn't interested in her as more than a friend, but he seemed shocked and offended that Sarah wanted to back off.

Just as a woman should take measures to guard her heart in relationships, a guy should seek to protect the emotions of his female friends. Paul instructed Timothy to treat young women "as sisters with absolute purity." I can say this from experience — you never have to wonder if your brother is romantically interested in you.

I have interacted with guys who are genuine and friendly without making me wonder if they want me to have their children. Like a good dance partner, the guy gently eases me to a place where I understand he considers me a friend only. We may engage in a meaningful friendship, but he does not give false signals by inviting me to dinner, e-mailing me daily or initiating extended time together. While these actions are fine if the guy is interested, they are misleading if he's not.

Make Room for Romance

Ecclesiastes croons, "There is a time for love." If, as a woman, you are indulging in an intimate friendship with a man who is not pursuing you, you are accepting a cheap imitation of love. And by spending all your time with a guy who will never put a ring on your finger, you may miss a potential suitor.

If, as a man, you are spending large quantities of time with a woman, you may want to consider if perhaps the relationship is deserving of an upgrade to an intentional relationship that explores the possibility of matrimony. If not, do your sister the courtesy of making your stance clear, freeing her to be pursued by another man.

Above all, if you find yourself in an intimate friendship with someone of the opposite sex, ask the Lord for wisdom and discernment. Describing the complexity of relationships, Dr. Reeve uses the words of a poster she once read:

Involvement with people is always a very delicate thing....It requires real maturity to get involved and not get all messed up.

"Never," she concludes, "is this more true than in relationships between men and women."

I couldn't agree more with the good doctor. When it comes to male-female relationships, lacking intent, the buddy system is a bad idea.

2008-10-21T22:35:00.002+08:00

i cant decide!! i cant decide!! argh!! Lord help me!!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhh~

Natalie grant held

2008-10-20T15:55:00.001+08:00

Two months is too little.
They let him go.
They had no sudden healing.
To think that providence would
Take a child from his mother while she prays
Is appalling.

Who told us we'd be rescued?
What has changed and why should we be saved from nightmares?
We're asking why this happens
To us who have died to live?
It's unfair.

Chorus:
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.

This hand is bitterness.
We want to taste it, let the hatred know our sorrow.
The wise hands opens slowly to lilies of the valley and tomorrow.

(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.

Bridge:
If hope is born of suffering.
If this is only the beginning.
Can we not wait for one hour watching for our Savior?

(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.

you - switchfoot

2008-10-19T13:19:00.001+08:00

There's always something
In the way
There's always something
Getting through
But it's not me
it's You

Sometime's ignorance
Rings true
But hope is not in
What I know
Not in me
It's in You

It's all I know

And I find peace
When I'm confused
I find hope when
I'm let down
Not in me
But in You

I hope to lose myself
For good
I hope to find it in the end
Not in me
It's You
It's all I know

Switchfoot - Learning to Breathe

2008-10-19T13:10:00.001+08:00

Hello, good morning, how ya do?
What makes your rising sun so new?
I could use a fresh beginning too
All of my regrets are nothing new

So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
This is the way

That I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies

Hello, good morning, how ya been?
Yesterday left my head kicked in
I never thought I could fall like that
Never knew that I could hurt this bad

I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies

So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
That I say I love You
This is the way
That I say I'm Yours
This is the way
This is the way

refocusing

2008-10-18T16:24:00.002+08:00

somehow, just somehow, these few months since june, had really been a roller coaster ride for me. hadn't expected half of it. i guess mayb i had my life in such perfect organization that somehow, God hadda just throw a bag of marbles on da floor and watch me balance myself. so far, i fell and got up balancing again till i reached the end of the marble filled floor...it really wasn't an easy task....going through evryday, trying to iron out the wrinkles in my so called "organized" life....God really hadda teach me to trust Him and rely on Him to organize evrything for me. it took me a couple of months to go through "marble field" and come to terms with myself and allow Him to do the organizing.

now, though it seems quite smooth sailing, i still get bricks thrown towards me, to wake me up from just going through life blurly....man...talk about rough training....haha. well, i do whine and groan and complain as this really is tough....but, can really see tat He is really digging out all the nonsense i have in my life and smoothening out all the rough areas....i'm happy that He's dealing with me, however, at the same time i'm too scared of all the unknown....what will happen in the future? i'll b finishing my semester soon...what will i do for hols? i'll b doing practical next year...which school? will i teach well? will the students like me? will i grad by august or dec? after grad where would i work? when i'm working, who will i meet? and on and on and on.... so, do or die, i gotta submit to Him and His will....and He really does hv His way of drawing my focus back towards Him.....making me go back to my knees and literally crying.

so yeap, just got hit by a brick or two not so long ago....time to refocus again.... :)

Cinderella - Steven Curtis Chapman

2008-10-08T22:54:00.001+08:00

dancing with daddy Jesus.... :)

growing up

2008-09-29T10:52:00.006+08:00

after looking at the title, what does it mean to u? to me, it means change.

growing up or change for the matter, is NEVER an easy issue for me....i never liked change or ppl just disrupting the flow of things....it just gets me agitated and wana go "rwar" at them. but somehow, no matter how i hate it, God still doesn't hesitate to give me a few twist here and there to see how i fair (gee...thanks God...haha).... so how did i fair? so far so good i'd say, as when the time comes, it's sink or swim...literally.

why am i talking about this? well, i've just read this article by Matt Kaufman in "boundless" which also titled growing up and some of the stuff he said got me thinking....

"It would be nice to think wisdom and maturity come with age and experience. That would certainly suit me, both because I'm gaining in both those categories and because it's often true. At times, though, the opposite happens. People may lock into attitudes in their youth that only harden over time. They decide they've got the world, or other people, all figured out, and no one can tell them they might be wrong. They hang onto those attitudes all the more stubbornly as they go along, as if admitting major misjudgments would render their lives meaningless."

it's so true tat evryone tend to think that maturity and wisdom and all just comes naturally as we grow up...which true in one way, tat it does happen as some ppl go through life's experience, gained something, and mature from there, whereas, some.....still go through life's "awesome" expereinces and end up bitter and stunted. so, now, the 1 mil question is "how are u taking the changes?" go figure...

many times, it's so easy to just sit and sulk over changes and refuse to move on....but, if we think rasionally, change WILL come as long as we live and the only way to face it is with the help of Jesus....walking us through it all....yea..growing up is hard...but i know i can go through this gaining and growing with wisdom, maturity and gracefully.....bring it on~

my darling Trevor

2008-09-28T23:00:00.001+08:00

Meaning of Sharon?? LOL....

2008-09-24T14:26:00.002+08:00

What Sharon Means

You are the total package - suave, sexy, smart, and strong.

You have the whole world under your spell, and you can influence almost everyone you know.

You don't always resist your urges to crush the weak. Just remember, they don't have as much going for them as you do.

You are truly an original person. You have amazing ideas, and the power to carry them out.

Success comes rather easily for you... especially in business and academia.

Some people find you to be selfish and a bit overbearing. You're a strong person.

You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection.

You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive.

You have the classic "Type A" personality.

You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something.

You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense.

You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.

You are well rounded, with a complete perspective on life.

You are solid and dependable. You are loyal, and people can count on you.

At times, you can be a bit too serious. You tend to put too much pressure on yourself.

You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people.

You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts.

You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.

What's Your Name's Hidden Meaning?

hahaha....got this from your blog gracie-weicy...

Wait, My Daughter, Wait.

2008-09-24T09:49:00.001+08:00

Watching couples walking side by side,
With such a gleammer in their eyes,
Smiling, sunggling without a care,
Lord, when would I be there?

Turning left, turning right,
Trying to avoid every sight.
Weird, pityful stares come my way,
Oh, that poor girl, they say.

You should not be picky, just choose one!
As long as he loves you then he's the one!
Who cares about commitment?
Who cares if he's drunk?
Who cares if he's ambitionless?
Girl! Come on just choose one!

Do you think you're all that?
Tall, pretty and thin.
Do you think you're that fine pretty thing?
Let me tell you the truth, one by one,
That you are none of it and that's only number one!

You're not getting any younger waiting for him,
How do you even know that's even him?
He may already have someone in his heart,
It may not even be you,
That's the sad part.

Don't be silly, playing that waiting game,
Come on follow me and you'll be entertained.
They're not that bad, if you try and see,
As long as they show sincerity.

Temptation is one great enemy,
And I'm facing it so helplessly.
Whatever that was said,
Has so much meaning but no weight,
But, anxiousness has already taken shape.

Oh, Lord! It's not fair!!
I've suffered so much,
I've even waited, prayed and fast!
I've stood my ground and tried to be still,
Yet now, somehow, it does not seem real.

My dear daughter now focus and look at Me,
Don't fix your gaze on things you should not see.
You are a gem, My precious one,
Don't ever think of yourself as junk.

I've fashion and made you, so uniquely,
That it'll be meaningless to have a double copy.
Remember forever Psalms 139:14 said,
That you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

I love you so much please remember that,
Your one true love can't even beat that.
Wait and have faith is all you should do,
Even if he's not the one for you.

All these things happen,
Only to draw you close to Me.
To show you what it really means to be happy.
His love and care only last so long,
But Mine, My dear, you can safely hold on.

Yes, My gem, I know it's tough,
The waiting process is always rough.
But, the one thing you do not see,
Is that I'm molding you and getting you ready.

Ready for what?
That day you'll see.
Him, that guy,
Who had also gone through me.

So, stop being anxious and filled with self-pity,
Let your Author and Finisher do as He please.

Wait on Me and have strength,
Wait on Me and hold My hand.
Slowly see the story unfold,
My daughter, no matter what I love you so.

-Sharon Lim Soon Ai-

testing

2008-09-23T15:44:00.001+08:00

test la test la